Sexy Gay Men

by Deanna Ashford

The full title of this post should really read “Why do women find gay men so sexy?” However, I must make it clear here that the title cannot be taken as a generalisation. There are some gay men that I don’t think any woman would find particularly sexy. For instance Julian Clary is one that comes to mind. He may be reasonably pretty, or he was in his youth, as well as sharp witted and amusing but as far as I am concerned in no way could I ever fancy him even if there were no other men left on this earth.

There are, however, many gay men who are most definitely sexy. The idea for this post first came to me when I was watching John Barrowman on the Friday Night Project. John is good looking, in a very masculine way, with a great physique and he is charm personified. Also he has a dangerously wild side to his personality that allows him to say the most outrageous things on TV and actually get away with it. He has charisma in bucket-loads and also the guy can sing. What more could a girl want apart from a gender reassignment of course.

Not only is John an undeniably sexy guy he also freely professes to really like women. And he is into boobs in a big way – one up for me here! Deep down don’t many of us believe that we might well be the one and only female to be able to tempt him away from guys and make him fall for us instead. I think some of John’s charm also stems from his heroic alter-ego Captain Jack Harkness who has been featured in ‘Doctor Who’ and is now the major character in the new series ‘Torchwood’. Jack is a man who claims to be omnisexual, or in John’s word he’ll shag anything that moves whether it be male female or alien. There are sexual undercurrents between him and the doctor, which I for one find fascinating. Who wouldn’t fall for Captain Jack after seeing him chained hand and foot in a prison cell at the end of the last Doctor Who series? (What is it about chains that can be so sexy? Are we all into bondage in a subliminal way, or is it the idea of just having a man chained and at our mercy.) For all you Buffy/Angel fans out there – James Marsters, aka Spike, is due to guest star in the first episode of the second series of Torchwood which is due on our screens after Christmas. He plays an omnisexual alien who becomes involved in some way with Captain Jack. Sparks are bound to fly and I am already wondering who does what to whom! Last but not least on Dr Who/Torchwood – a piece of trivia - I’ll never be able to look at David Tennant in the same light again after learning during the Friday Night Project from John that David’s nickname on set is ‘ten inch’

There are of course many other sexy gay men in all parts of show business and beyond. Take for instance George Michael, part of the floppy-haired twosome known as ‘Wham’. Teenage girls the world over mooned over the two cute young men, Andrew Ridgeley and George Michael and a thousand hearts were broken when they split up. However, George then evolved into the moody sexy singer who could move us with songs like Careless Whisper and albums like Faith. George was a sex god, women worshipped him but little did we know at the time that sexy George was actually gay and didn’t fancy us ladies at all. George of course was famously outed when he was arrested in a Beverly Hills public toilet in 1998 for engaging in a lewd act. Did that negative publicity hurt him? No it did not. Women still adore him and he is now a Megga Star with records sales in the region of 85 million.

Other gay singers and actors have great success, not only because they are great at what they do but also because their female fans find them sexy. For instance: - the chubby cheeked doctor from Grey’s Anatomy, T. R Knight; Rupert Everett, with his, oh so British accent, and his upper class manners on screen: the sweet Stephen Gately from Boyzone (a few broken hearts again after he was outed); and one of my favourite singers Will Young.

Some of the reality shows we have had lately have been quoted by some as being gayness personified. Personally I loved the reality show Any Dream Will Do because it was full of cute young men who could sing, act, dance and appeared to sweet and charming. It was hosted by Graham Norton, an often wickedly entertaining gay guy, who isn’t particularly sexy (That’s only my opinion. Not that Graham would care if I found him sexy or not.) While one of the judges was my most favourite gay guy in the world, John Barrowman. Of course there are most likely quite a few gay men in musical theatre, as there are in all aspects of show business, but most of the participants were heterosexual young men who had the talents and skills to be West End leading men. As it happens Lee Mead, who won the prize role of Joseph in the new Andrew Lloyd Webber production, is clearly a blue blooded heterosexual male with a great voice, phenomenal stage presence and a great body. I can attest to that first hand. He looks very sexy on stage wearing a small very revealing loin cloth. So please bring on more of these so called gay shows Aunty Beeb, I love them.

Even in books and in movies we appear to find male/male relationships interesting and undeniably sexy. As far as books are concerned erotic romance is now one of the fastest growing genres in the United States and many of these books contain male/male relationships, even if the males concerned often are bi-sexual rather than gay. There is something so fascinating about two men in bed together enjoying the pleasures of each others bodies.

Justin was arse-fucking the man who had made love to her last night, and Helen’s entire body tingled at that thought. Her head spun and she was filled with the pain of wanting as she watched the thrusting heap of male testosterone straining towards a mutual climax.

In 2005 a new genre of movie found a place in our society when Brokeback Mountain was released and went on to be both incredibly successful and honoured by all the critics. It was an Oscar winning drama that depicted the relationship between two young men at a time when homosexuality was not considered an acceptable practice in the small town American West. Brokeback Mountain was a beautiful love story played out against the background of cowboys herding sheep in Wyoming. These two young men, Ennis and Jack, live together in near isolation for many months and gradually become good friends. One night they share a tent and a rather hasty coupling ensues but soon that turns into a deep and enduring relationship, which continues on over the years but eventually is destined to end in tragedy. The two young men are played by movie sex symbols Jake Gillenhall and Heath Ledger both straight young men but that didn’t matter as they played their parts with a delicate sensitivity that is a joy to behold. More trivia here – during filming it was reported that Heath almost broke Jake’s nose in a kissing scene as the scene required violent passion. For me a broken nose would have been worth it for a passionate kiss from either young man!

Sarin began to stroke Tarn’s cock in a smooth seductive rhythm that aroused his senses. Lust flooded Tarn’s veins and for a brief moment he was able to stand back and view what was happening as though he was not involved. He saw two men, fuelled by a primeval passion, cocooned in a white, frozen wilderness far from signs of civilisation, and he knew he was trapped in this world of magic and mystery where light and dark intertwined..

It is easy to forget that relationships, which are now quite acceptable in the twenty first century, were, only 40 years ago, considered a crime by British society. Fortunately we have moved on a lot since then but in the past gay male movie stars, who were considered sexy pin ups by the ladies of those days were forced to hide their true inclinations in order to survive in show business. Thanks goodness that has all changed.

Are gay men sexy? I think they are, do you?

Deanna

Lastly a short quiz the questions first mooted by John on the Friday night project. Who would you ( a) Fuck (b) Marry (c) Throw off a cliff ?

Best answers win a copy of either Doctor’s Orders or Wild Kingdom (from which the above quotes were taken)