Lust Bites: Violet, we, at LustBites, are in awe of you. Your moxie. Your charisma. Your full-body flower tattoos. If we could, we'd take you out to drinks, in some dive-y little bar, and ply you with liquor to loosen your tongue. (A Violet Martini, anyone? The splash of Rose Water sounds so enticing!) But that would require mega bucks for airfare (we hail from such exotic locales as Essex and Brighton and Glasgow and L.A.).
Violet Blue: Ahhh, but what a wonderful, decadent, sexy salon we'd all make.
So instead, we've pooled our collective brain power and come up with a variety of questions for you.
Lustbites: What do you look for in a story? What do you hate to see?
Violet Blue: It's funny—I know within the first 5-6 graphs if a story has what I'm looking for or not, and sometimes I can't even explain exactly what it is. A good piece of erotica should let me know why I should care about it right away, and give me at least one character I like, even if she or he is an anti-hero or seriously flawed. I tend to be drawn more to publish character-driven stories because they really anchor erotica well; plot-driven stories are a joy but good ones with sex in them are hard to find, or perhaps more tricky to craft. And it should seem obvious, but I demand erotica with sex in it—I do not like "lite" romance or erotica that dances around the actual sex, and as a reader I hate to be teased. Not to say I don't love a good love story; it just needs to have some tension and some explicit friction if you know what I mean. And one thing I really can't stand is when authors go overboard with genital and sexual euphemisms —it's often so distracting, and even vulgar. Go figure!
LB: What do you think of the romance genre's trend toward erotic romance?
VB: I think it's exciting—I love that romance is getting hotter and more in touch with its readers' desires to see situations that accurately reflect their fantasies, and the honesty of the sex therein.
LB: What are the worst offenders in conventional mass-market porn? Boob jobs? Bad lighting? People keeping their socks on?
VB: Ack—it's funny to read what you just wrote, but so painful to know that after decades these things are all still equal offenders in the world of porn! Sunglasses, socks, icky guys, scary looking girls—why can't pornographers get a clue and show us the kinds of people we really want to see!? It's like we've all been waiting for porn to grow up and out of the Barbie era, but it hasn't. So I guess the worst offense of modern (okay, present-day) porn is that they still think their audience is comprised of stereotypical depictions of porn consumers left over from the 1970s, 80s and even 90s. Their worst mistake is thinking that we're just like them.
LB: Where do women go to find stuff that's hot and not ugly?
VB: Online and in film festivals. Comstock Films, Bleu Productions, directors like Eon McKai, and festivals like Seattle's Hump! and NYC's CineKink. Also, on my blog and on Fleshbot.com (we feature lots of mainstream porn, but plenty of hotter indy stuff every chance we get).
LB: I'd like to know more about your outlawed mechanical art, please! (Okay, so this is not technically a question. Some of us don't understand what a question is. But it's sweet, in a breathless, gushing way, nonetheless.)
VB: Oh goodness! I'm the kind of girl who loves to get dirty with the boys turning a wrench (better than the boys in most cases), and gets hot under the coveralls for anyone who likes it, too! I've been a grease monkey with outlaw machine arts organization Survival Research Laboratories for the past 11 years. We produce the most dangerous robotic shows on earth, meaning we weld hybrid giant lethally-capable machines and make them remote control so they perform in shows— anthropomorphically with a script, even. I weld, drive a forklift, run crews, do carpentry, work on hydraulics, old diesel and gas engine and run the machines during shows. It's always funny to see mainstream media people stumble and trip over putting this part of me together with the sex writer/editor/educator side. Like a girl can't have more than one talent! I apply a mean set of fake eyelashes, too.
LB: Our culture is so sex-saturated at the moment it sometimes seems like we're approaching the Fall of Rome. Do you think we're in danger of becoming oversexed?
VB: Hardly—we're becoming more sexually mature as a society. I'm of the opinion that there's no such thing as information overload, no matter the topic, especially sex—and the more information we have the better consumers we become. And the safer we become as a culture in many ways, too.
Visit Violet at http://tinynibbles.com/
And don't miss more fun at Lust Bites this week with Shanna Germain here on Wednesday to chat about what it's, like being an erotica writer who also writes things that, well, aren't erotica and on Friday - another special guest star - none other than Mr Madelynne Ellis will be here to tell us about the hellish life of an erotica widower
Tilly aka Mathilde Madden
Who just waved goodbye to her first litter of werewolves.
P.S. We're giving away a free copy of Violet's awesome and amazing Fetish Sex: An Erotic Guide for Couples, so be sure to post a comment. We'll announce the winner at the start of next week!
PPS. Alison Tyler (who isn't really here) has just added a couple more books to the giveaway: Violet's The Ultimate Guide to Cunnilingus and The Ultimate Guide to Fellatio, both featuring all the jaw-dropping oral advice you'll ever need plus sexy shorts penned by Alison.
Phew, we're getting hotter and hotter today. Good luck!
Kristina X (also not really here.)